How To Love Yourself Unconditionally
Most of us are so busy waiting for someone to love us that we’ve forgotten about the one person we need to love first—ourselves. While we’re caught up looking for love from a partner we miss out on receiving love from the one person who has the most amazing love to give. That is the person who stares back at us from the mirror. However you can learn to love yourself unconditionally.
Falling in love with yourself does not have to be loaded with guilt. It’s not selfish when we do it with appreciation. And best of all we discover a source of love that never runs out.
It’s often said that “we can’t expect others to love us if we don’t love ourself first”. While this is true to an extent it’s not the whole picture. Because the reality is, others DO love us even when we don’t love ourself. They see the beauty within us even when we can’t.
When we don’t show ourself genuine love we can very quickly find ourselves caught in a cycle of negativity. Lack of self-confidence, insecurity, jealousy and self-loathing feed off each other and escalate our unhappiness. If we continue in this pattern we begin to push others away. This perpetuates our belief that we are not worthy of love, and reinforces our self-dislike.
Conversely, when we love ourself and treat ourself with kindness and respect we always have someone around who sends us love. We feel more confident, positive, and secure. Others are drawn to us and we receive even more love from them also.
How To Love Yourself
So how do you start falling in love with yourself? The whole idea of turning this concept into a process may seem a bit ridiculous. However, it’s not really so silly.
Engaging in a process of introspection and appreciation makes the process very possible.
When you fall in love with someone else the romance follows a few steps. You can follow these same steps to fall in love with yourself.
Your Heart Skips A beat
Firstly you meet an interesting person. The first step to loving yourself is to meet YOU.
Close your eyes and take a few deep belly-breaths. When you feel relaxed turn your attention within.
Without any judgement, consider what you are really like? What do you like to do, to eat, to play, your interests, and your passions. What are your accomplishments? What is good about you? Don’t be critical. Recognize what’s interesting and unique about you.
If you are struggling to find positive qualities within think about the qualities you admire in others. These qualities, talents or gifts you admire are a reflection of qualities that are also present within you. We admire them in others but often cannot recognize them in ourselves.
Getting To Know
After meeting somebody new you get to know them.